Domestic abuse can take many forms. Domestic abuse can affect anyone from any background and any identity. Domestic abuse can include psychological, sexual, economic, emotional or physical abuse, coercive or controlling behaviour, so-called honour-based violence or forced marriage. 

It can be difficult to recognise when someone close to is abusing you. Here are some questions that might help you look at what has happened to you. 

Does your current or former partner and/or family member:  

• Call you names, humiliate, criticize, or belittle you? 
• Use your gender or orientation as a basis for threats, intimidation or harm? 
• Threaten to ‘out’ your orientation or gender identity? 
• Threaten to harm you or others around you, including pets? 
• Control you financially?  
• Make unwanted advances or force you into sexual contact or unsafe sex? 
• Use physical violence against you? 
• Stalk or harass you, including online or via phone? 
• Limit or control your movement or monitor your whereabouts and communication with others, including contact with friends, family, community, education or work? 
• Accuse you of cheating on them or act excessively jealous? 
• Use substances to control or harm you, or blame their alcohol or drug use for their abusive behaviour? 
• Damage or withhold your belongings? 
• Intentionally use the wrong pronouns? 
• Deny you access to medical treatment or hormones? 
• Use your race, ethnicity, immigration status or disability against you? 
• Pressure or force you into marriage without your consent? 
• Try to minimise their behaviour or blame you for their behaviour? 
• Threaten to harm themselves if you leave or seek help? 

If you answered  yes to any of these questions, you may be experiencing domestic abuse. You do not have to face what’s happening alone.