Last Christmas, my partner and I decided to infuse a special touch by inviting a dear friend to join the festivities. The days leading up to Christmas were a whirlwind of holiday shopping, securing the perfect groceries, and, of course, making sure our list included a generous selection of wines. With the fridge stocked and the wine glasses filled, we crafted a celebration uniquely our own.
On the much-anticipated day, culinary duties were divided – my partner expertly handled the vegetables and fried the chicken, while I took charge of preparing my signature fried rice and salad. As we gathered around the table, the joy of shared stories, hearty laughter, and the warmth of togetherness filled the room. We also played some ‘never have I ever’ games to learn more about each other.
Oddly, I have a tradition of dozing off on Christmas day, so we all succumbed to a holiday nap. The day took a gentle turn as we woke up feeling refreshed. We ventured to a nearby lounge, soaking in the Christmas atmosphere, and indulging in a drink or two. Of course, my order included some spicy suya, a personal favorite. Laughter and genuine happiness marked the day, a testament to the gratitude I hold for the space we’ve created—a sanctuary where queerness is not just accepted but celebrated.
For me, Christmas is more than a day on the calendar; it’s an opportunity to create a space of joy and acceptance. Reflecting on this Christmas, I find immense gratitude for the genuine happiness within our space. In a world where family acceptance can be a challenge for queer individuals, I cherish the ability to create a welcoming haven. I hope to continue opening our doors to more queer people, especially during holidays when familial acceptance may not be as forthcoming. Here’s to joy, laughter, and creating our own traditions in a world that may not always understand us, but where we can certainly be embraced.
About the Author
Eniola is a passionate advocate and Country Director for ELLA Nigeria. Transforming spaces for queer women and non-binary individuals through community-building and empowerment